As they say, “every good thing must come to an end.” This is also true for the sparks in a relationship. It takes experience to know that to keep the sparks flying and the passion going you have to be proactive – now and then tossing a log into the fire to keep the flame going.
Married women interested in their relationship for the long haul are more committed to seeing their relationship survive a passionless relationship. They try to make it work and could go great lengths. This could involve staying in the marriage, but developing a discrete relationship on the side.
For the non married woman in a relationship, there is no binding tie and when the excitement goes, finding another person to reignite the passion would only be a matter of time. Once the right person comes along, it is good bye to the current boyfriend. To keep your relationship going strong, be proactive, reignite the passion and ones in a while toss a log or too into the fire
Sometimes women already know that the relationship is doomed. They guy is perfect, they look good as a couple, but yet she doesn’t feel right. Most of the time, the guy is the kind of guy she would like to take to her parents, marriage material they call it. The only problem is she is not ready to settle down yet. In her heart she wishes you guys have met 5 years down the road.
It could also be that the passion is out of the window in a relationship, you do not excite her anymore (maybe not your fault really) and she is ready for an adventure to explore other avenues. Well, she could just walk away and dump you, or try to disengage without hurting you badly. So they wait for an opportune time to breakup.
If there are any delays this might mean they would have to start doing the exploration while they are still in the relationship with you. They start to send out signals to the opposite sex that they are available; they flirt with male coworkers, hang out online on dating websites; hang out offline with friends at clubs and bars. Within a short time they are involved in a no string attached relationship, which is easily rationalized as ok, since the breakup with you is imminent. Without intending to, your girl has started to cheat on you without having developed an elaborate plan to do so, just a consequence of an opportune time for a soft breakup with a nice guy, not showing up on time.
Do long distance relationships work?
“Absence makes the heart wander.” Most women make an effort to sustain their relationship and will stick to a partner no matter what, but starting a long distance relationship introduces a new dynamic to the equation and a level of opportunity women sometimes are not used to having. All of a sudden they have time on their hands and somehow, they just have to find something to do with that time.
The time they normally spend with you in the evenings or weekends becomes spare time. They might begin to hang out just to kill time. It normally starts out as an honest hanging out with friends going out for drinks. The facilitation could also be due to hanging out with friends who are single or not attached or friends who are already swinging, on the hunt or waiting to be taken. They flirt with guys and get hit on, and before your girl knows it, she is carried away with the moment and may find herself on Romeo’s bed.
It could be a one off affair and she will be more cautious when going out with friends or she could embrace it. Whether she tells you about that one night of adventure depends on how your relationship is set up. As the saying goes, what you don’t won’t hurt you.
Before you dump your girl for no obvious reason or break up with her, make sure your mind is made up. A woman that felt she was not treated well could engage in irrational behavior. A guy that let his girl go unceremoniously and then discovers he can’t live without her and wants her back will definitely be cheated on down the road.
Most time the scenario unfolds like this, the distrust girl not feeling so great after the break up offers herself to any guy that showed any interest just to find out if she is so washed up that she can be dumped unceremoniously. She confirms that she still has what it takes.
By the time she takes you back and accepts your apologies, she has learnt her lesson. She now has security, she has kept the best of the flings she had as security in case you change your mind or just something else on the side while she explores her options. She has no regret’s at all, she believes that one has to look out for themselves and having a plan b and c is not bad at all.